During Hubby's second year of med school there was a luncheon at the school for the second year and the first year podiaty students' 'significant others', but I didn't feel like corralling 3 four-year-olds there, so I didn't go. During the luncheon the second years gave advice to the first years about how to 'survive' med school. At the time I wrote down some of the things I would have said, had I gone. Here's what I wrote:
The most important thing you can do is be flexible and adaptable. Med school is tough! There will be times when your husband has 3 or 4 tests in the same week! He might get home really late, and get up really early, studying his brains out for those tests. Be understanding, and do all you can to help him. A little suffering & husband-missing now is better than the possibility of being in school an extra year because he has failed a class and has to retake it. Ask him how you can help him. Offer to make flash cards, pack him a lunch, send him friendly text messages--anything you can do to help make things a little easier. Try to have date nights periodically.
On a date night to see comedian Tim Hawkins (He is hilarious!!)
Remember-this too shall pass. In a few years he will be workin' that 9-4, and you will have all the time with him that you want. Just try to enjoy the ride. Make friends with some of the other wives, who can understand where you are coming from, and get together with them for girls' nights, playdates, etc. You can find in them a great support system.
|Getting pedicures on my birthday. The girls set up babysitting for my kids and everything!|
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